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Cultivating my most important relationship, the one with myself ~ Interview with Anahi Bustillos

Caught in a moment of reflection, Anahi is wearing her Chakra Intimates Harmony Bra and Passion Thong.

Our “Your Chakra Is Showing” influencer series highlights remarkable women chosen for their unique voice and commitment to female empowerment. Our champions demonstrate feminine strength, personal growth, and a commitment to themselves and the planet every day.

Anahi was one of our very first models for Chakra Intimates. Her beauty is what landed her the job, but her charisma is what has kept her in our hearts since then. She may change personalities often depending on the continuous acting roles she books, but one thing that remains constant is her unwavering enthusiasm to lift up those in need and speak her truth when it comes to the politics of her community while encouraging others to do the same and get involved. You'll want to keep reading to hear what this vibrant soul does to stay grounded, keep her heart opened and voice strong.

Q: What made you decide that you wanted to support women with your voice? 

A: It comes from being like every other woman who had a complicated relationship with themselves from the place of looking at their own self worth and looking in the mirror with self love. It’s just like any relationship in life; you constantly have to work on it. That being said, I think I have come so far now at 35 from who I used to be thankfully. I can honestly say that when any woman, or person who crosses my path who is clearly having a difficult time or insecure moment, I am compelled to look them in the eyes and tell them that they’re worth it and special. I think that’s what every woman, child, person needs to hear when they’re young but unfortunately that doesn’t always happen so I just feel strongly that everyone needs to be reminded of that on a daily basis so that we can all walk in our highest power.

Q: Was there a specific moment when you said, “I’ve got to do something now”? 

A: No specific moment, I’m just someone who’s struggled with depression since a very young age, so when I see someone that is suffering and I am in a position to help, I’m just compelled to act. It’s our duty as humans. Even though not everyone does that, I can only be responsible for my own actions and that is how I am called to act.

Q: Was there a time in your life when you needed support? 

A: Yes many times I’ve needed support financially, during heartbreaks, emotionally, you name it, but I don’t think I was ever in the position or had the capability of asking for help until my late twenties when I was finally able to verbalize it. I think that was the time in my life when I first started to find myself surrounded by women that I really felt I could count on. That, I think is the most important thing to consider when you do need help. Who are you surrounding yourself by? Can you count on them, are they reliable, do they have your best interest at heart? Because if they’re not, I personally let those individuals that are not valuable to my existence and experiences free from my life.

Q: What was it? 

A: I moved to LA at 18 with saved money from hostessing and waitressing and spent a large part of my life in my 20’s struggling, financially and emotionally, trying to figure out as a young adult how to walk in my own shoes with pride. There have also been, fortunately only two, very toxic romantic relationships in my life; both which have been huge learning processes for me and which at both times I needed much help getting through.

Q: Where did you find that support? 

A:  When I think of this particular time in my life, one dear friend comes to mind who was a sister to me. I could count on her. She loved me unconditionally, was supportive, always listened with an empathetic ear and gave me guidance. She made me feel comfortable sharing those dark moments of despair and I owe a lot to her for that support. When I moved out here I had to develop relationships with sisters like her that I was aligned with and could trust. Those relationships of course took a lot of time to find.

Q: Did you intentionally decide to be an influencer or did it happen as a result of something you did? 

A: (Laughs) Ok, I really don’t like this term, I even loathe it, so maybe I need to think outside of the realm of social media with this one. 

Q: What does it mean to you to be an influencer? 

A: I guess what I can say, is that I have learned a lot about myself in the past few years. I’m a very strong woman with a powerful voice that has strong boundaries and doesn’t let anyone cross them and if they do I will let them know. So I guess if I was or am an influencer that would be awesome if I encouraged other women to stand up in their divine femininity to protect themselves and others.

Q: How would you describe power for a woman? 

A: I just read this interesting Q&A that was part of a workshop on the Divine Feminine and it covered a lot of the same feelings I’ve shared here about describing power for a woman. Lifting other people up, not coming from the top down. Trusting your intuition, translating those feelings into words and actions, then speaking out and executing. It's a process. I feel that this is all about believing in your own self worth, trusting yourself and honing those skills. Like I said before, it’s a relationship like any other and it needs constant care and attention to flourish.

Q: Do you think vulnerability is an asset or a detractor? 

A: I think vulnerability is a Grand Asset. The difficulty as an adult is learning how to balance your emotions and how to let go of things that aren’t worth your time and energy. Vulnerability means having a big heart and as an adult it is our duty to heal, work through and move on from our childhood wounds so that our big vulnerable heart is not triggered negatively from past events, even the most toxic ones.

Q: How do you structure your day? 

A: I am still learning structure. In fact, I’ve recently taken an intensive course from one of the most gifted and talented acting coaches I have ever met. I truly hold this man in high regard. He talks a lot about self discipline and that if we’re not taught self discipline, then we don’t know. He says self discipline is self love and I am still working on that. 

I currently structure my day by making the time to wake up and practicing the Buddhist chant “Nam Myoho Renge Kyo” for 10 mins then do breath work for 10 mins and have the goal of adding in voice work. Although essentially the chanting and voice work all have to do with breath work. It's all with the intention of making sure I’m grounded, on my feet, in my body, with my voice and with my heart opened. Other than that it is memorizing lines, standing in lines, driving around in traffic and eating all three meals in my car. My hectic schedule is one of the reasons I've lived alone for the past 14 years. I spend a lot of time in my home with my cat...and I do work out. I’m working on getting the strongest both mentally and physically which I think has a lot to do with where I am in my life presently with my age and with what’s going on in the world only makes me want to be stronger.

Q: How important is factoring “me” time and what does that look like for you? 

A: I’ve lived alone for nearly 14 years now. I know the positive and negative side of solitude, however I love it. I take myself out to dinner and on adventures and cherish quality time at home.  Sometimes it does get lonely even though I have my family here now and my circle of friends but as I said, I have strong boundaries and my priority list and number one on my priority list is my well being and mental health. Number two is my family, number three is my career and number four are my friends. However number three does sometimes come before number one and two but because I have a very good understanding of what depression feels like, and being a highly sensitive person which is why I live alone. I have made my home my sanctuary. I know that mental health is imperative and that usually comes from spending quality time alone with yourself in a loving way.

A: Q: Where do you look for energetic support? 

A: I get the most energetic support from my practice of breath work and exercise. Energy really generates from within. I love going out and spending time alone, but when I really need an extra pulse, I usually just spend some quality time with a special friend. Although a night on the dance floor with good music and some bass playing is really where my heart is.

Q: How important is buying with eco-awareness? 

A: It is so important to me. When I first went to Mexico by myself when I was 25 years old, I spent 3 weeks in the Yucatan and got a black and white slap in the face perspective of what capitalism and globalism is; how a product that you buy “here” affects someone 1/2 across the world who, you may never meet but the purchase you make still affects their life and livelihood. So I’m trying to make more time in my life to eat healthier, be more conscious and cut my personal consumption of single use plastic. Clothing wise, I rarely buy from the “mall”. I prefer to support local Los Angeles companies or clothing that has been thrifted or vintage. I get this really negative energy when I go into the mall. I do indulge sometimes, but again every product, purchase and decision we make affects someone else’s livelihood and I will always have that on my mind.

Q: How do you think we can impact this planet if we bought with preserving it in mind? 

A: If everyone bought with the planet and other's livelihood in mind maybe we wouldn’t have Capitalism anymore. With that mindset I don’t believe we would make purchases from companies and corporations that don’t pay their employees a living wage and that these fellow human beings can't even afford clean water, health care, shelter, food, clothing and an education. If there was more transparency and empathy we could act on a more conscious level with the decisions we make. 

Q: What are your top 3 tips for staying happy, whole and successful? 

A: Time for yourself to be indulgent in self care, whatever that means to you. For me its dancing, breath-work and laughing…if I had a good man in my life it would be making love! As for the breath work, its not as easy as it sounds. To get out of your stressed, shallow breath and deep in your body with clear channels requires self-disipline and a lot of intention. 

Q: What is your wish for the women that you support? 

A: I wish that they are endlessly happy. That they are healthy, loved, content, taken care of and successful in whatever that means to them. I wish for them to believe in the power to make themselves happy and to make their own dreams come true. For them to heal all their old wounds and to walk in their worth, as a queen does. I wish them everything, but mostly love, I wish them so much love. 

Ah, Anahi, we wish the same for you!

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